Well good news everyone, I've decided that I will file on Monday.
I had plans tonight at 7pm. W took our son to sister in laws (about a 30 minute drive) at 3pm. Around 8:30 she started texting asking if I can come pick him up when I'm done with what i had going on because she's been drinking all day (like every day). So an hour later I drive the whole way out there. When I get there her and son are walking to a house party down the street (some guy we both sort of know). I take son home, she walks down to the party.
My son was bored out of his [censored] mind for hours while she sat there getting too drunk to drive. This was the 3rd Saturday in a row this happened.
I could care less if she bangs every dude in town, and drinks herself into mental health. But being mentally unfit to care for our son is a 100% deal breaker.
I know, I probably shouldn't have drove out to get him, but I'm not going have her drive him home after drinking all day, nor will I have him sit there any longer, bored to death.
She sent a text thanking me for getting him. I didn't reply. She'll probably sleep over at my brothers tonight. My next words to her will be 'congrats, you get what you want. I'm filing Monday morning'.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14