Update,

Still working on things, there's almost no interaction between us now.
She is spending most of her time with OM2. She seems to have given
herself permision, that its ok now since shes asked for a divorce. Shes
not even really trying to hide anything anymore. Says she wants to move
out by september. She has no money to do so. In between, shes meeting
up with him at hotels.

My head wants to explode. I cant take the cheating... I'm so utterly terribly
heartbroken.