OK here goes first post... pt 3

[bhappy2]

It would help to explain why MIL (who wants us to split) said to me recently how calm I've been and gave me a big hug... and yet I've barely seen her for months.

How do you know MIL wants you to split? Did you do something so horrendous to your W that your IL's despise you? Stop trying to read the minds of everyone involved.

Amazing chance that I now know the recording device.

When speaking to her you should always assume you are being recorded, this will help you keep your cool.

I went for a walk today and by another amazing chance W went past in the car... she is still supposed to be away on a break (and had offered to call as soon as they got back but hasn't).

So you are 100% certain it was W, she is away but decided that she would drive by just to see what you were doing? Listen clearly, you need to focus on you, right now you do not pay any mind to your W. She wants nothing to do with you...for now.

Part of my GAL plan is to do some boating. I spoke to the church leader for a while. They have a boat. I asked if I could borrow it. They agreed. GAL.

This is good if its going to happen, unfortunately I see a lot of generalizations in your thread, By chance, i might, I was thinking, a legal person....etc.... this will not work set a plan and follow through. Boating is great but you could start with something like going to play some darts.

It's been a weird few days off coincidences considering I had also bumped into the sibling of FIL by chance who I'd not seen for years and they guessed right away the FIL was involved etc. We are meeting tomorrow

You will never heal if you keep trying to cast blame for others on your sitch, man up right now. Listen to those of us who have gone through it, you will feel empowered if you take back your life. You may or may not save your marraige.... its time to save yourself.