Organic Blue Sky

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Wow - thanks everyone for the amazing outpouring of advice and support. Gordie, Job, DNJ, Andrew, KML, Pax, Bttrfly, Brubeck, Oneart, Roist and KYH: thank you, thank you and thank you.

Working on straightening out my kids' passports situation and drafting a new will.

Just wanted to drop a line to remind all that there is a wonderful life on the other side of this! I cannot believe how much my life has improved in the last 6 months. Whoa.

I am up for another promotion at work and was given nice praise from my boss. This is important for those of you long time stay at home moms who get hit by this MLC bus. Reinvention is at your fingertips! You are already so strong from surviving this!

I have lots of friends. The more people I tell my story to, the more support and encouragement I receive. People at work now know about my D and many coworkers now invite me to many social gatherings. (I give them the PG version of my story. I have not told them that my ex thought I was trying to shoot and poison him. Nor have I mentioned that he wanted to go out all hours of the night and sleep around but then sleep here! CRAZY days!!!)

In MLC news: I sent my ex a settlement proposal. He sent me a rage text and never countered anything. By the system he owes me more per month so I asked for this arrears. He was outraged. He said he'll go to the judge and say I have committed perjury?!? In his response to the court he actually stated what he's willing to pay me in support! LOVE how he *thinks* he can decide this number that he picked from up his a$$ and to the left. Umm, there is a system for calculating this. He continues to think he is steering this ship. So, to court we'll go to settle how much support he owes me. (Hope we get the same judge who slapped his wrist last time.)

A few weeks ago he texted me to inform me there was a severe thunderstorm warning for the next few hours and asked me to keep the kids safe. I wanted to write back: "ok, thanks for the great advice. We're going to go to the ocean and pole vault in (with a metal pole). I am sure somehow, someway it makes sense to him. Love how he moves 2 miles away "to be free" and continues to attempt to micromanage. Sigh . . .

A few days ago, I received a text from one of the dads on my son's sports team. He said he saw me from a distance at tryouts the other night and just wanted to say hello. Then he wished me a good day. I saw it and put the phone down like I had just read something I wasn't supposed to see. I wasn't sure what to make of it. Then read it again and wondered if he was hitting on me?!?

I cannot lie, after years and years of being told that I was old, and had "let myself become middle aged", it was nice to receive the reach out.