Do not ask things like that. It is absolutely pursuit, pressure and R talk all rolled into one. First of all, your H most likely does NOT actually hate you. It feels like it, I know. It's probably a mixture of anger and resentment towards you, anger towards himself, stress, confusion and frustration.
It isn't fair. None of this is fair. It's all totally unfair, in fact. Us LBS' have to let our WAS' sort themselves out. We have to do our best to actually let them do that, sort ourselves out in the interim and become the best us we can be, and essentially hope that the WAS realizes that maybe we're not so bad after all and maybe they do want to give reconciliation a shot. That's it in a nutshell.
Beyond that, we have to prepare ourselves for the outcome we don't want and be ready to live our lives without this person that we still love but who doesn't want us anymore.
Last edited by hongaku; 08/11/1803:00 PM.
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.
