So I'm trying to give my wife the space she says she needs to 'process' things. In the last week I haven't initiated any conversations except for pertinent child or household stuff, and even that was only once or twice. I've also gone 'out' twice in that time. Both times I said she's welcome to come, but she declined.
Here's the question. Her #1 complaint about our relationship seems to be that we 'drifted apart'. We don't communicate well, we live as roommates, etc. So wouldn't detaching literally be doing exactly the same thing that was the problem in the first place? I mean, her stated reason for all of this is because we were both detached from each other!
I do realize that whatever I do should be for me, and not her/us. And that was evidenced by the very first weekend when I was super nice, upbeat, etc, and she said it was making her very mad cause it wasn't the 'real me'. Should I be trying to at least sprinkle in some type of legit personal conversations, affection, etc?
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
