Overrnbw, where is your wife? Did she move out? Or you're just not spending time at home?
It's tempting to do all of those things. It's extraordinarily difficult to do what you're doing - detaching and staying out of the drama. That's not fair what your wife's mom is saying but I guess you can never count on in-laws.
The lake and being with family sounds like a good thing right now. What does your own family say about the situation?
