In the aiport he was genuinly annoyed and took it out on me. Wasnt a joke.
With the cups, he wasnt annoyed. Just making fun. But, if you are meeting new people and those new people are your gfs friends, why would you introduce yourself by making a joke at you gfs expense. It made him look like an idiot. Cause 1. He was wrong. No need for cups. 2. It annoyed me, cause i was running around all morning with my son and had everything ready to go. I did a lot of work and hes focusing on the 1 flaw he sees. My friends know what its like to run around with a little kid and they were more like "wow. Thank you so much. This was so much" 3.it embarassed me for HIM. He came across as loud, arrogant, and belittling. And i dont have the energy to engage in the banter he is seeking. Its not funny to me. And im not in banter mood over stupid stuff. I came put of a 3 year divorce filled with petty fights for godsake!
I realize this is his personality. Its like he is seeking drama and attention maybe? Or its the only way he knows how to communicate in front of groups of friends? He has told me in past that ex's conplain that he trys to fix without listening. Its much more extreme. He insists that his way is right and its just not. And i dont care that its not. I just dont like the insisting when i am doing something my way. I feel like i have to constantly defend my actions cause he cant just accept im doing sonething the way i want to do it. He has to comment on anything.
Hes just extreme in his language as well. Like with a stanger with kids he says to me in front of my son "ask this b... if shes leaving". Now he doesnt mean anything by it.. he wasnt angry when using that word. This woman did absolutely nothing wrong. He wasnt in a bad mood. But seriously. Why say that?????? She didnt warrant that. I pointed out to my son he is never ever to use that word. So i think he got the hint. But its like why? Are people like that?? I underatand if your fighting for a parking spot after being in tons of traffic and you just lose it and regret it. But this wasnt like that. It was his norm.
He is like that male version of that loud nagging female. And i am going into that classically defined male reaction of silence or distancing and avoiding.
But like i said. There are really goos things too. My life would be easier in some ways. I just dont know if i can handle the extremen personality. I never really broke things off with soneone i have dated this long.
