Help Please!

[Terapin]

I swear I've read thousands of posts/threads on 4 or 5 different message boards in the last 2 weeks. The reason I chose this one to join/post is because the people here seem the most reasonable and level headed (not just: she's cheating, divorce her! Get a lawyer! Kiss her a.. to make things right!") So again, the replies I receive are appreciated more than you all know. But, and I don't want to insult anyone here, but I'm not much of a computer/message board guy. So I don't know how much or how little to post, what the etiquette is, etc. lol. I don't want to fill up the board with useless nonsense, so I will try to just post relevant info.

Davide: Ya, I definitely agree with you. The struggle I have with 'going out' is that one of her main problems with me is that I'm not 'supportive', 'emotionally engaged', 'I don't communicate', etc. Doing my 'own thing' may be counter-intuitive? I guess that's the dilemma for a lot of guys though?

UK: Thanks man. Sorry your stuff is so nasty. Yeah, odd how they all of the sudden know all kinds of divorced people. Actually, I swear, her and I literally know 5 couples right now going through or contemplating a divorce. Is this [censored] contagious?

That's the same reason I came here too! You should post as much as you want to! If you have a thought or a question, let er rip.

Don't worry about her too much or the crowd she is walking to. Nothing you can do about it so you energy is better used in other ways.

Have you read and reread Cadet's stuff?

Thanks.

I've read a ton of stuff. That's what makes it hard to detach, GAL, etc, because I've already been doing a lot of that stuff the last 10 years. lol

Anyway, just a brief conversation last night about the kid and dogs. No mention of anniversary or anything.

One thing she said last week that I just remembered, was something about how she 'has the confidence now to make a go of it alone'. Something like that. When she was younger she had some self esteem issues.