Advice on my Scenario Pt. 22

[OrangeK]

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THIS!
YES.

This is how you cordially disagree with someone, give them advice from a stance of different veiwpoints!

Amazing. Seriously JS. Beautifully written.

I will say this, i do try to see value in each and every post and response.
Sometimes people choose to word things in a way that i find to be insesitive, misinformed or assumptive, and when this happens, I let them know how i feel.

I feel like a lot of people her have a tendancy to assume i am angry each time i post. Just because I disagree, or even debate / Argue, does not mean i am angry.
I think my angry posts are easily identified. I TEND TO TYPE IN ALL F***KING CAPS AND SWEAR A LOT WHEN I AM TRYING ANGRILY. (<---just a visual example, not actually mad! )

LC, Yes I certainly came here with the intent of saving my MR, i wanted that, more than i can put into words.
However as the onion layers were peeled back from my MR month by month, it became more and more evident of how manipulative and abusive my EX truly is. When i first started posting here, i believed her to be hurt, confused and emotionally unstable due to trauma and self esteem issues.
She is just a toxic manipulative person.
I am far from perfect myself, and have gone over my flaws and short comings here on the board more than once.
Things i am working on with IC, and within myself.

I cant just sit back and thank someone for a post i find to be rude, assumptive, and biasedly opinionated.
I will say something if i feel that way.
I have to struggle with this impulse in my professional life too, its has caused problems before that i have no compunctions against telling even an authority figure i disagree with their logic, but Its just who i am.
I have a backbone and a big mouth. Honestly, not qualities i am looking to change either.
these same traits are largely responsible for my success in my field as well.

the 180's, GAL and so on have been crucial in my recovery.

thank you for a well worded, and compassionately posed post.
Seriously.