Yes. Let's cross that bridge when we get there. H came off his planet today to send me an impersonal email. That seems maybe a smoke signal from the bridge? But not the bridge itself.
Quote: I'm going to suspect the same motive for your H... I don't have any answers on how to reassure your H or mine. But I do know that being compassionate and verbally reassuring him that I will not play judge is what is absolutely vital.
I suspect the same too. Here's my complication... I DID play judge and jury in the past, though not nearly as well as the hanging judge H plays himself. While I stopped that some time back and he does know that (he's said it-- much like Mr. W, he said he knows I can probably forgive him and get past it, but could he ever forgive himself and move beyond it). I can also understand his hesitation and fear of being judged. Sometimes I get impatient with this because I pay very little mind to who might be judging me... because I know how I feel about me. Learning patience with others on this front has been a big growing experience for me.
And then there is the issue of what I want and how maybe that has changed given the present circumstances.
Quote: So wonder, are suggesting that throwing back a cold one helps gettin it flowing again better than chewing?
I am most definitely suggesting this, but I still prefer a good glass of wine. Sometimes, you need to kick back and have some fun...or at least I do!
Sometimes, you need to kick back and have some fun...or at least I do!
