Glad to hear that taking a step back helped. I am finding that I need to do that all the time. What you wrote recently about the letter to your W and the part about parenting really struck home with me as I have felt that recently too. There have been a few days in the previous weeks that I have struggled with the parenting aspect. I have this vision of being the perfect parent in Ws absence and the kids and I have grown really close. Yet, on a few occasions I have struggled with being present with them. Forcing myself to engage with them when all I felt like doing was disappearing in to a back room and zoning out. Then I felt bad for feeling that way. I realized that on those days I was feeling a little depressed and exhausted...and like you described, being the victim. Understanding that is why I felt that way helped a lot.
