You're really lucky you don't have kids. It's a hugely complicating factor for me. My family means everything to me and the likelihood of it breaking apart is equally as emotionally devastating as the woman I've loved for 20 years wanting to end our love relationship.

Does your STBXW really need to see the dog? Will you be taking the dog with you if you move to a new city? I would personally go completely dark other than the necessary financial stuff, and keeping those exchanges as mechanical and businesslike as possible.

I'm sorry you had to suffer through her crocodile tears and the always insipid "hope we can friends" BS. You really handled the meeting with her well though, given the way things are. You're going to be alright and you've definitely done a lot of important growing from what I can tell.

M: 40 W: 37
T: 20 MR: 13
S13, S9, S4
BD: 1/29/18
Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out)
8/24/18 I come home, she moves out

If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.