No I don't. Ignorant means uninformed. As a former child myself, and as someone that raised a child, I can honestly say that what lcause said was short-sighted. And he stated that opinion as if it was an universal fact. And that anyone that disagreed with it had a third world mentality and was VIOLENT and ABUSIVE to their kids. THAT is ignorant.
OK please understand, this is a bigger discussion than whether or not you STBXW abused your S. That is between you, her and him. I am merely stating that in general corporal punishment IS not abuse. And there are times and circumstances that call for it.
Physical punishment of children: lessons from 20 years of research
"The evidence is clear and compelling — physical punishment of children and youth plays no useful role in their upbringing and poses only risks to their development. The conclusion is equally compelling — parents should be strongly encouraged to develop alternative and positive approaches to discipline."
Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now To Stop Hitting Our Children
"We now have enough research to conclude that spanking is ineffective at best and harmful to children at worst. We also know that a range of professional and human rights organizations condemn the practice and urge parents to use alternative forms of discipline. We thus have research-based and human rights-based reasons for not spanking our children."
Spanking and child outcomes: Old controversies and new meta-analyses.
"Thirteen of 17 mean effect sizes were significantly different from zero and all indicated a link between spanking and increased risk for detrimental child outcomes."
and yadayada...
I trust in science and evidence, research. I do not base my parenting in a proverb from a fairytale. So spank your children as much as you want to, but stop suggesting it for others. Be ignorant as much as you want to. In my country it is illegal and rightly so.
Now, I don't know whether in this case it was as bad as it sounds as we are obviously hearing only one part of the equation. 3-year-old isn't necessarily able to accurately represent the situation and it could have been far less. I wouldn't act on it other than maybe ask or tell her that it isn't something one would expect. Of course if this happens more often and if it goes into anything more serious, then it is a different question.
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
