Advice on my Scenario Pt. 22

[OrangeK]

Wow, Okay, I'll give it one more try then I'm just going to let the chips fall where they will. One day you will wish you had listened to those old guys with their outdated thinking. See, I too was 30 once and thought I knew it all.

Apparently you still do Don.

I have to wonder, has your W made these criticisms of you? I will bet she has - and of course you just dismissed her and said she was wrong.

Not that you will believe me, but no, she never did.
If you'd like to meet someone who is "Always Right", go meet me STBXW.
Again, clearly you have not read my situation very much, as if you had, you wouldve known the answer to this and the level of manipulation and deception my EX is capable of.

This is a first! I've been called all sorts of things - abrasive, abusive, condescending, intimidating and many others. Never once in my life has anyone thought of me as a "pushover" or anything close. It would be like calling Trump a diplomat. It just proves you have no clue about many things - I'm no pushover.

"abrasive, abusive, condescending, intimidating"
This sounds on point.
But yes, i do believe you are a pushover, if you were to be so accepting of someone abusing a 3yo.

Now this is simply a deliberate misquote to try to turn things completely different than what I said. It's right out of a fake news playbook. What I said was : "If you chose to fight her like this you are going to make a really, really difficult life for her, for you and for your child." That is far different. Yes, you may want to make life difficult for her but if you do, she is going to do it right back to you. Have you ever heard the phrase "Be nicer to your neighbors and you'll have nicer neighbors." You call CPS on her and then she will call CPS on your. You can spend your life doing this tit for tat but it's going to be a really, really sad, sorry life. Tell me, are you happy now? This must be beyond difficult to live this way. It must be exhausting to live like this every day. Or are you enjoying this? Every waking moment you are wound up dealing with your ExW. Is that any way to live? You just want to be right and fight her at every turn. She has hurt you and now you want to get back and hurt her! Think about this - you are trying to hurt the mother of your son! Like it or not, your son needs his mother just as much as he needs his father. It's your SON that is going to suffer the most damage - not your ex-wife.

So i should keep my mouth shut and just accept and tolerate somone (even if it is his mother) abusing my son?
Sorry, but no. not happening.
Like i said, Pushover.

You are again misquoting and making things up. I never said nor do I think that sharing a bed with someone he's known for months - I actually thought it was a year he's known him / once again changed to fit your narrative? - is okay. I do not think it's okay and I would not do it myself. I would not like it. But guess what, I don't make the rules for life - and neither do you. That's what I'm trying to get you to see. Just because you and I would not do it or don't like it does not make it correct. And it most certainly does not make it criminal.

A year is 12 months. Its still able to be measured in Months. Are you trying to say theres no such thing as 90 seconds because a minuet is 60? semantic hogwash, you are just grasping at straws at this point.
Never claimed it was criminal. Further proof you dont read, you just react.
Hi Kettle! I'm the Crow, how nice of you to call me black!

Wow! Again, you have zero clue. My son is a navy veteran with a wonderful 6 year old daughter and has been married for nearly 10 years to a wonderful woman. He's a year or two older than you yet look at his life. My daughter has her masters in business, works in healthcare, has two great kids and a wonderful husband of about 7 years now. She works with all sorts of local programs and charities. Both are happily married and thriving - despite my being involved in their upbringing. Again wow. But it does speak volumes to the work you need to do on yourself. You can only hope to aspire to the levels that they both have.

And i am the manager of a 3.5 million dollar a year small business, and an accomplished firefighter? Whats your point? None of that is relevant at all. Does that mean every single thing my parents did is flawless and 100% correct? No. Perhaps if you climb off of your high horse you will be able to see the ground beneath the clouds.

We are not here trying to bring you down. We are not Internet bullies trying to troll and fight from behind a keyboard in our parents basement. I've lived a whole bunch of life that you may just be able to benefit from. By no means should you exchange my judgement for your own. You have to decide what you want to do. But, tell me, if you are not looking for help and input, why in the hell are you here? We've live through all of this and have vast experience that you could benefit from - but if you don't want to, you most certainly do not have to. You came here, presumably for help and input - correct? If not, again, why are you here? We are only trying to help you not make some really bad mistakes - nothing else. Do with it what you will.

Don, what you are IMHO is exactly that. A self righteous keyboard activist.
I dont think i can identify a single thing you said that was meant to be genuinely helpful.
I sense 0 compassion or empathy in your post, you are simply using me as a scapegoat to feel superior because I prescribe to different ideology and methodology than you do.
I am here for help and input, from people who provide valid help and input.
as opposed to your assumptions that "I know it all", or you blindly telling me what to do, because clearly you "Know it all"
Age doesn't dictate intellect or wisdom Don. So please stop flying your AARP card around like its some sort of flag of victory, experiences and how thay are handled are what build character. Not simply years adding up.
Ive met 20 year olds wiser than 60 year olds, and high school drop outs far smarter than PHD holders.
Its all relative Don.

Good. Day. Sir.