Advice on my Scenario Pt. 22

[DonH]

Wow, Okay, I'll give it one more try then I'm just going to let the chips fall where they will. One day you will wish you had listened to those old guys with their outdated thinking. See, I too was 30 once and thought I knew it all.

It's amazing how you even take things out of context to try to win your point. You are a right fighter. You are always right. you always know best. Others just don't understand the world and life like you do. I have to wonder, has your W made these criticisms of you? I will bet she has - and of course you just dismissed her and said she was wrong.

Additionally, i can say that i think your way of thinking is archaic, and you are a pushover.

This is a first! I've been called all sorts of things - abrasive, abusive, condescending, intimidating and many others. Never once in my life has anyone thought of me as a "pushover" or anything close. It would be like calling Trump a diplomat. It just proves you have no clue about many things - I'm no pushover.

"if you chose to fight her like this you are going to make a really, really difficult life for her"

Now this is simply a deliberate misquote to try to turn things completely different than what I said. It's right out of a fake news playbook. What I said was : "If you chose to fight her like this you are going to make a really, really difficult life for her, for you and for your child." That is far different. Yes, you may want to make life difficult for her but if you do, she is going to do it right back to you. Have you ever heard the phrase "Be nicer to your neighbors and you'll have nicer neighbors." You call CPS on her and then she will call CPS on your. You can spend your life doing this tit for tat but it's going to be a really, really sad, sorry life. Tell me, are you happy now? This must be beyond difficult to live this way. It must be exhausting to live like this every day. Or are you enjoying this? Every waking moment you are wound up dealing with your ExW. Is that any way to live? You just want to be right and fight her at every turn. She has hurt you and now you want to get back and hurt her! Think about this - you are trying to hurt the mother of your son! Like it or not, your son needs his mother just as much as he needs his father. It's your SON that is going to suffer the most damage - not your ex-wife.

If you think a stranger that has only know my son for Months, sharing a Bed is ok, then you have some very different views than I do.

You are again misquoting and making things up. I never said nor do I think that sharing a bed with someone he's known for months - I actually thought it was a year he's known him / once again changed to fit your narrative? - is okay. I do not think it's okay and I would not do it myself. I would not like it. But guess what, I don't make the rules for life - and neither do you. That's what I'm trying to get you to see. Just because you and I would not do it or don't like it does not make it correct. And it most certainly does not make it criminal.

If you feel these infractions are not cause for Court intervention then I pity any children you may have raised.

Wow! Again, you have zero clue. My son is a navy veteran with a wonderful 6 year old daughter and has been married for nearly 10 years to a wonderful woman. He's a year or two older than you yet look at his life. My daughter has her masters in business, works in healthcare, has two great kids and a wonderful husband of about 7 years now. She works with all sorts of local programs and charities. Both are happily married and thriving - despite my being involved in their upbringing. Again wow. But it does speak volumes to the work you need to do on yourself. You can only hope to aspire to the levels that they both have.

We are not here trying to bring you down. We are not Internet bullies trying to troll and fight from behind a keyboard in our parents basement. I've lived a whole bunch of life that you may just be able to benefit from. By no means should you exchange my judgement for your own. You have to decide what you want to do. But, tell me, if you are not looking for help and input, why in the hell are you here? We've live through all of this and have vast experience that you could benefit from - but if you don't want to, you most certainly do not have to. You came here, presumably for help and input - correct? If not, again, why are you here? We are only trying to help you not make some really bad mistakes - nothing else. Do with it what you will.