Left for work trip yesterday morning..W had S6 try to FaceTime me in the morning while I was getting on plane so I missed call. Got another FaceTime call around noon while I was in a lunch meeting so let it pass again. W then texts me that S has attempted to FaceTime me several times and I wasn’t available, says they would try again around 5.
W then texts me that she has made arrangements for S to stay at friends house for next 2 days as she had to take him to work with her 2 days in a row. I did t respond or react to any of these texts.
W and S call in late afternoon while she was taking S to friends home in my neighborhood. Call was over car speaker so S & my talk W could also listen and interject. Call lasted almost 45 minutes where W and I were just making small talk about how things have been going with work, sale of our house, S activities, etc.
While I did enjoy talking to W as if it was old times, I was a bit hesitant. And sure enough, towards the end W says she realized S swim suit and gear were at my house. W then asks if it would be ok to stop by and pick up as S started to complain and react that he didn’t want to have to wear another kids suit. I was reluctant, but realized I was out on the spot with S in background. I didn’t agree to allow her in, but also didn’t make a stand like I should have. So W went to my house and got swimsuit and possibly several other items that I won’t know until I get back in town.
Frustrated that she wrapped me around the axle and used S to manipulate the situation. I haven’t addressed my concerns to her yet, but do feel like I need to reaffirm my boundaries and expectations.
Does anyone reading this have advice if I should approach with a firm fist or should I let it lay?
I feel as if I just hosed myself on progress that I had made in not being a doormat...
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
