I want to apologize for posting so sporadically and not heading back your way. I really LOVE reading your thread, because I walk away with more things to think about.
The only thing I have to add is for KAW too (I am a faithful fan of yours too, darling). I think it is wise not to make any advanced decisions on whether or not you will leave the door open to friendship. Let that decision unfold over time so that you aren't digging in your heels and trying to prove something to yourself.
I have found (through hard, miserable experience) that when I decide something without taking the time to walk the road, I am usually surprised along the way.
I really think that we will know the answers to those questions when we arrive at our destinations (or at the very least, are approaching the station). You will both know in your hearts whether or not your H/CAW are esteemed enough to be your friends.
After all, isn't a friend someone who gives back to you? If they aren't those people, don't lower your bar to accept from them what you wouldn't accept from anyone else. If they really and truly ARE eligible, then you will both find a way to move past the past and work on something better for the future.
I don't know about you, but I've had way too many self-absorbed, "it's all about me" and selfish friends in my life. When it's the weeding out period, they are the first to get Xed. Who needs 'em? Besides, you two are probably the best and most loyal friends around to those who are in your inner circle.
Go for the gold, kids. You both deserve it.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
