How old is Band Guy? How long has he been D'd? How long ago since his last R ended?
he turned 42 on our first date. 4 years older than me. Closer in age than the other guys.
He has been D's 3 years. He does struggle with the lost of his family unit and partner. He is very much a planner and do things by the book guy. he thought he did everything he was supposed to, and still lost it all. If he wasn't sad about the loss of his family unit, I think I would be more worried. It's a normal thing to grieve. I don't think he misses her, but he does miss his family/life partner as he is a family guy raised in a big family with parents who have been together for 56 years.
His last R ended I believe around Christmas. I can't sit here and say "what if she comes back" I could only hope if that ever happens and we are in an R, he realize it's me he wants to be with. Not much I can do about this.
Kids will stay out until we are seriously dating, and yes, I agree, the occasional meet up isn't damaging. I don't have a time frame on it. getting past the 6 week point for me is a huge deal, let alone the 6 month point! One step at a time.
If you have a good feeling Don, I think this might have some hope! I am not going to get ahead of myself. Maybe I am finally catching a break, maybe I am not. Nothing is moving fast though.
it is really nice to be in tune with eachother. And he is the first guy who doesn't snore. Score!
In other news, I saw a condo yesterday and I didn't really like it and it wasn't worth the money. I am discouraged. I spoke to my cousin, and my good friend last night and everyone says I should open up to new towns and new school systems. I hate doing this to my daughter. Having to make all new friends, ect. She has enough disruption in her life. I might find I don't have a choice though. The only way I could probably make this happen is if she falls in love with the house and she can have a dog. I figure closer to work, so I can get her to more activities where she makes friends.
I am lost. It's a really big decision to make single-handedly
