Some more journaling.

Regards to me. I have come to terms with my whole situation. Looking back I can see that our M did need work and did have flaws. I was contempt with it but it could of been better. Im not trying to justify W actions but understand that we both could and should of done more to make it a more healthy R.
My feelings towards W have levelled out now and im sure that I dont want W back. I have felt this way for over a month now and it’s not fluctuating. Yes I still miss her at times but her actions and deciet and hurt she caused me crushed the love I had for her. I dont feel I should forgive her . Does this make me a bad person? I dont talk to her when we handover kids unless it involves them. I dont want to know about her new life in anyway.

It still hurts when the kids talk about playing with OM and doing things with him and his kids. I hope that just gets easier with time.

Question. How do I teach my kids what my wife has done is wrong without it damaging there opinion of her. Acting like everything W has done is okay.surely will alter their moral compass?

My healthy eating went out the window whilst I was on holiday. But I felt I deserved it.

Back onto the exercise again and I’m happy to be doing it.

I have made a lady friend. We have been talking for nearly 2 months. She used to work with W and came out of a long term R herself. We arent dating . Just friends. We have both talked about not being ready for an R with anyone. Its nice to have someone to talk to and a little flirting in the middle. Is this healthy for me? It definetly helps me stop thinking about W.

I am feeling more positive these days but strangely my sleep has been more restless. I dont understand why.

Regards to GAL I havent really been doing anything social. I have been going for walks and getting out on my bike . I do know I need to do more but I have had the kids lost of the time.

So thats me at the moment.


Me=32 W=29
R=12 yrs M=7 yrs
BD 02/18/18
Dd=3 S=6
Other man confirmed 06/10/18