Hey Wonder!
just adding my two cents.......

As I just said on my thread, I am thinking of asking h to dinner so we can clear the air and figure out if a friendship is at all possible.

I like the idea of writing your H a letter. You can post it here and we can help edit. It sounds like once you got past the "calling at a bad time" thing that you had a positive interaction!

Let me ask you this....when you see H is calling on caller ID do you cringe?? I DO! Which leads me to conclude that I am not feeling so great about our interactions lately!!

Maybe it is better to pretend they fell off the planet??!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)