I see this all too often and it worries me that BS/LBS tend to press the “I’m going to pursue D” button too soon due to frustration, it’s your choice of course but your situation is still quite new! Don’t get me wrong D might happen BUT it should be (In my opinion) the guilty party who pursues it UNLESS detrimental to you and your kids then by all means go ahead. I say this because (again my opinion) you need to slow everything down and let the R cycle take its course.
DON’T BE OFFENDED... How would you react differently if god forbid she had died instead of had an A? Mourn for a month then get on with your life right?
Hard as it would have been I would have preferred my WW to have died than do what she did and continues to do NOT because I feel hurt and betrayed but because I would have had no other choice but to move on with my life. An extreme example but the principle is a good example on how we manage our situation with the benefit that doing things correctly can then “raise the dead” and bring our M possibly back together.
I read your posts and see so many push behaviors, you “lets go for a drink” WW thinking to herself “I don’t want to go for a drink with you” you push her away a little. DTR let her come to you you deserve better.
Lastly my WW BD nearly 2-years ago but I’m still M M men don’t go looking for another R it makes us no better than the wayward, I might be wrong but would suggest Sandi would say the same. Lighthouse..?
With time you will get to a better place but please forget D UNLESS detrimental to you after all this is why we’re all here right..?
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
