Hope, Faith & Wonder-ment

[TripleJ]

he was very friendly and agreeable, .......

If this is how we interact, does it make sense to give him some of what he wants (friendship, based on what I am willing to do) or shut him down completely until he cleans up his act?

I think this depends on you, and the person you want to be.

Do you want to be the type of person who is friendly, outgoing and just plain happy on the outside, showing people that you are whole and comfotable in the shoes that you walk in?

Or do you want to be the type of person who seems to be the grumpy old ogre to those people who are being friendly with you?

Positive interaction with ones that have hurt us is hard to have, because alot of the time we let our emotions and feelings get in the way.

I don't think there is anything wrong with being friendly. If he wants to be friendly, let him be friendly. But it is your choice to be friendly back.

Just like you have the choice to be friendly when he is not. Its all a matter of what path you want to walk down. And which path will be the one that makes YOU look the better person.

I personally try to be as friendly as possible to my W, but the image of OMs in my head sometimes creep in. I hate that, but it is something I have to deal with. Being friendly helps (and hurts), but after a while, especially being that way to all others, the hurt gets less and less.

Did I make even an ounce of sense here? too much coffee I think.

Have a great day wonder!

Triple J