You need to be thinking about taking care of yourself, protecting yourself both emotionally and financially. If getting the house ready to sell quickly is important to you financially then perhaps you should do it. I didn't see that mentioned earlier in your sitch though, and it seems like you might be rushing things just to get some resolution. This is a long process and rushing through it won't actually help. Has your wife even talked about moving out? I don't think you can force her to leave the house until you are divorced. Is the house in your name or hers or both?
I think you are trying to get out ahead of things to try and control them. Let go of that. The sooner you realize that you can't control this situation the better off you will be. Obviously, take the steps to protect yourself, but give up the illusion of control.
Ya, I probably am rushing to a resolution. I feel like I can deal with most things, good or bad. But being in limbo is something that's driving me nuts.
No, she hasn't mentioned anything as far as that. Actually last week when she was telling me how miserable she's been, I (maybe foolishly) handed her a print out I made of household assets. She said something like 'i haven't even thought about this stuff yet'. Stuff like that leads me to believe she's still on the fence, but then she tells others that she doesn't love me. Very confusing. Like I said, I guess I'm just the type that would rather deal with something logically and immediately, rather than 'think about' stuff for weeks on end.
But you make good points. Thanks man
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
