MrsJLS, I wonder if your H is using his lack of affection as a way of controlling you.
Yesterday, I spoke to a councillor who asked me if I'd ever consider having a family with someone other than W. I hadn't seriously considered that before. I said I would. Having a family together really is so, so wonderful but unfortunately my W now only seems interested in her career and taking money planning for a D.
I have since lost more than 2 st in weight and now have women saying to me that I'm gorgeous and a great Dad. I am a confident person but it is a bit weird hearing compliments. A few weeks ago W said to me "Gosh you're tall" - it's like she had completely forgotten the 25 years together (more than half of our lives)... and then I realised that I'm walking tall. My posture is so much better than having to stoop down to her level...
