Thanks Steve. Ok so W returns. Kids very happy to see me. I’m happy to see them of course. W doesn’t say too much. I do not initiate conversation but am pleasant and just reply ‘hi’. W checks mail. I see MC copy so I now know she is going to file for the legal sep. I feel anxious but carry on regardless. Have dinner together. Speak about D birthday. All fine. W goes off to the home office to ‘work late’. I put kids to bed but cannot find their toothbrushes amongst the travel bags. Look in W bag and there in her wash kit are the kids toothbrushes - next to the lingerie and body lotion. Ok I think, don’t react. Now she has definitely but those toothbrushes there for me to find deliberately and wanted me to send the lingerie. She wants me to react in some way. I didn’t. Lo and behold W comes into house to see kids. To see if I’ve seen the evidence and if I’m going to do what she wants and expects - confront, get angry etc etc. I do 180 and do nothing but continue to put up birthday balloons for my D. Now if she has been off sleeping with some guy I don’t actually care anymore. But how do I draw my boundaries without looking like this has bothered me? I basically want to tell her if she wants to sleep around then fine, but I don’t want this kind of person around the kids so best you just leave. She is trying to push my buttons but I won’t rise. But I cannot let her be a cake eater. Please some advice.
