I struggle with this loving detachment thing, too, so I get it. But I don't think it's being a jerk to choose not to recognize an M that W is actively rebelling against.
Me: 40 W:39 T: 19 M: 12 D4, D7 EA/BD: August 2017 EA ended: Oct 2017 MC: Oct 2017 - March 2018 W signed lease: July 10, 2018 W moved out: Sept. 14, 2018
