I can tell you, detaching works. It wasn't too long ago that I was going dang near insane. But rather than reaching out, I held out. No nothing. I logged on here, texted a friend, drive my car, whatever I needed to do. I got tired of feeling like I was only an option or a doormat. And - that was only my thoughts. He never told me that. It was my own feelings. I feel like you feel the same way. Like an option. To get over that feeling I had to dig deep and say I'm better than this. I started making myself go out and being active, almost to the point of exhaustion. But it best that feeling. You need to get there. Stop telling her your plans. Stop waiting on a date with her. If you find yourself doing that, stop and refocus.
