Ok, I saw that because she is likely in an EA. The catalyst for a W to finally drop the bomb is usually the fact that there is someone else. Even if this EA has no chance of a PA, the fact that she has crossed the line into emotional intimacy with someone else often times awakens a desire for close personal connection with someone. And she doesn't see that as possibility with you.
Have you tried the code to her phone lately? One of the first signs that my W was in an EA was that suddenly her code on her phone and other accounts got changed.
Obviously that was my first suspicion too, and I haven't ruled it out. I mean seriously, all of the 'red flags' are definitely present, but I can only go with what I know for now. And honestly, and I'm probably wrong, but I don't really see it mattering all that much either way. If there isn't anyone now, there will be soon I'm sure. And if there is, there isn't anything I can do about it.
Yes, I'm not proud of it, but I have. Code is the same. Nothing from any guys at all (of course conversations could be deleted). Just some texts to friends, family, and female coworkers about how much she's struggling with all of this, thanking them for their support, etc.
Actually I am very happy about your attitude on this. It is very healthy, and a very good way to look at it. You're right, it doesn't matter for what you need to be doing.
And your last point is a good one. My W was installing apps,using them, then uninstalling them. I found it by looking at her Google Activity log. (Yeah I was a bad snooper.)
So how has your GAL been going?
Lol thanks. Not saying its not on my mind, but I cant concern myself with that now. I think a more likely issue is friends from work who are also divorced women.
I also think a big thing is that because of her job, she feels very 'empowered' and confident now. Maybe shes looking for more indepenence? She also has a history of being real emotional, and sometimes acting without thinking everything through, but shes definitely putting a lot of thought into this. I also think overall depression may be a factor too, but im no psychiatrist.
Aside from pulling back from her to give her space, im not sure what else to do really. I already workout everyday, have continued hobbies, went out this weekend without her, etc. Not that she minded. Lol
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
