I simply don't understand why so many women want to be "friends" with their LBH who didn't want to end things. It just doesn't compute for me. If my W takes this through to D, I will have to remain cordial with her because of our kids. But I will never, ever want only friendship after having been together for 20 years in a manner way beyond friendship. How is this sort of thing even rationalized? How could someone ever think that it is in any way reasonable? My W has said BS like that to me since BD, "I want us to be close friends" and similar. It's like a sick joke. A seriously deep twisting of the knife.
I'm sorry for the rant, but it just fills me with so much anger and hurt given my current sitch.
It eases their guilt. Conflict avoid. Wants only the parts of you they want. It's cruel, but there is nothing really baffling about the psychology around it.
And is your STBX actually acting and thinking reasonably right now? Nahhhhhh.
