I simply don't understand why so many women want to be "friends" with their LBH who didn't want to end things. It just doesn't compute for me. If my W takes this through to D, I will have to remain cordial with her because of our kids. But I will never, ever want only friendship after having been together for 20 years in a manner way beyond friendship. How is this sort of thing even rationalized? How could someone ever think that it is in any way reasonable? My W has said BS like that to me since BD, "I want us to be close friends" and similar. It's like a sick joke. A seriously deep twisting of the knife.

I'm sorry for the rant, but it just fills me with so much anger and hurt given my current sitch.

M: 40 W: 37
T: 20 MR: 13
S13, S9, S4
BD: 1/29/18
Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out)
8/24/18 I come home, she moves out

If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.