Thanks for the background. It'll help people here help you. Some people don't have the time to backtrack threads.
How is your face now?
It does sound like you have taken some good steps along your path. Continue. I would urge you to be wary about judging W. Maybe she views you as the unstable one!! If I draw the number six on the ground and people looking at it from a different angle would swear that it was a 9. This is a small thing , tiny in many respects but it could influence your thoughts and actions unconsciously. Therefore best to avoid negative thinking and labels.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together