IH - With all that's happened, I sympathize with your approach now. I think the window where you could've done something has passed. But also, I don't see an escalation on her part and that's just garbage.
Even though I agree with Steve about the sexual innuendo and all of that as hints, I don't know about you, but I personally would be tired of that. I'd want her to come at me direct if that's what she wanted and if R was on her mind. I don't want meek interest, I want real pursuit and to be shown that I am really valued and wanted.
Yes, the man has to take charge and the lead and all of that, but that makes way more sense when it's the start of a new R without too much history and baggage. I am firmly of the belief that the person who did the initial rejection has to make the bolder moves if the want something to happen. Why would I as the LBS put myself in a position of rejection again - I mean you could if you were completely detached and want an answer and then figure out what you want to do. You can come at it from a position of strength no doubt.
I think the fact that you're willing to walk away is good. You could've either asked her and made a move and got an answer, or pursue this second path of now just going dark and moving on with your life. I don't think either of them are wrong, but the first is just more active and taking charge.
I would also be bored by now with this ridiculous yo-yo behavior. I'd want to see some more initiative and risk taking on her part. No more beating about the bush. Some people might say that women generally have a harder time with that and will play more coy or whatever. I don't buy that bull$hit. If they were straight up about separating and taking that risk, then they can put their heart out again and take that risk. I personally wouldn't take anything less than that.
So yeh, go do your thing and put W in the rearview mirror. She's gotta come at you direct. That's just my take and it may be too harsh. But after reading so many sitch's here, I want a woman who has no problem communicating what she wants and comes after it. Anything less and I am not interested.
