DBing does work even though it hurts you and feels awful because you want to love your spouse and you care about them.
The other thing about DBing is eventually stops hurting and stops feeling awful. That is the point. As you detach you realize that you will be fine with or without your WAS. Once you realize that then the pain of losing them dissipates. If they come back YOU get to choose whether or not your MR continues. Until that happens they get to choose. See the difference?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
