You might be right about the date being a lie. After all she keeps insisting she doesn't want to be with anybody right now. But I am not sure the reason she made it up is for the reason you suggest. It could be it was a way to get you to be a little more aggressive. To pursue a little more. You've been the lighthouse since she contacted you. Letting her do the all of the pursuing. I know you think you know her, but 4 years is a long time. And people do change.

My W used to be the type that never said what she was thinking if it was negative. Whether it was to spare someone's feelings, or whether it was to be seen as being nice, etc. But in the last couple of years that's completely changed. She just says it now. I could give you specific examples of things she's said in the last 2 years, not only to me but to other people, that she never would have said 3-4 years ago and earlier. People change.

Still your instincts have been right on with most of this so I would lean towards your instincts on this. I am not as sure about artista's theory as you are, but again I'd go with your instincts on that one. But the one thing I can't get past is her constantly mentioning sex with you and your endowment. Women that aren't interested do not make comments like that. They just don't. I honestly believe that those comments are hints trying to spur you to action, and she is too afraid of rejection to be more direct. But I could be wrong.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018