My wife and I have been seperated for going on 5 months now. Walkaway-wife. She is now in a relationship with another man she met on-line. I am realizing that all of the rejection I showed her was a huge mistake. We argued for months before she moved out but I never expected this. She says she has tried to be with me for so long and she finally had to let go. She gave me some blank divorce papers to fill out but I haven't brought myself to fill them out. I still love my wife and am realizing that its probably too late. I am taking care of myself right now and trying to keep myself busy. I have talked with a coach and he told me to do the "get a life" technique, so that's where I'm at right now. Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks!
You haven't provided much detail. Did he new relationship start before or after she became WAW?
My immediate advice: Do what the coach says! GAL like a madman. Also detach as Cadet tells you. You have to let her go. 180s where necessary. And just be the best 284 that you can be.
On the divorce papers, this is typical pure laziness on the WAWs part. I would get rid of the papers. When she has you served, then you deal with it. But since you do not want the D make her do all of the heavy lifting for the D. Do not do her dirty work for her.
Also, "She says she has tried to be with me for so long and she finally had to let go." They all say stuff like this. Usually they "give up" once they have someone new. That is why I asked about the new relationship. Likely she was already involved in an EA with this guy when she became a WAW.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
