Letting go for my own inner peace

[roist]

You have been open and truthful all along with your girls.Stick to that.

Just say that he was referred to as her H. You don't know if it's true or any other details. Then let the cookies crumble.

From an independent observer with no emotional link, I don't see that as being any worse than the rest of the story. More of the same really. I would not say that it nails the coffin on her R with her Ds but yeah it won't. I still have hope that one day they Dr reconcile but as you said, she isn't at a place where that is possible.

I also noticed that she believes she is regularly reaching out and she sees you as blocking her. Both are true especially to her. To me you are not blocking her but acting as a buffer on behalf of your girls. When she realises that, then maybe a new pattern could emerge.

She does seem to have a bee in her bonnet at the moment. Curious.

Best wishes