Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[marina7]

Gordie,
Thank you, I have read your thread and DnJ and couple more here. In the beginning as all LBS I felt alone then I started following groups some are great and some are cruel and judgmental due to me being a lesbian, honestly is no different then being married with a Man.

Yes I can finally say I have detached from W for awhile No relationship talk or anything if it has nothing to do with Kids. I answer W questions with one word if I can no longer puppy eyes or tears business transaction. Is hard but for now it has to be this way or forever who knows what will happen.

I have my good days and bad days is hard but never show W none of them. I don't even ask about W family as much I want too but I don't.

The ER was the first time we been together that long in a room since BD over a year. It was also interesting I would catch W stare at me when with kids laughing or hugging them I could see the hurt in her eyes. W would not even look at me after BD couldn't have more then a 15min conversation without losing it. This forum has really help me detach the old me would have thought the ER visit was a sign to talk about US now I see that's when W would get angry.

About my kids yes I will fight until my last breath I know at this moment W needs to take care of herself first my Kids needs to be with the parent that is stable I always said if it was reverse I hope W would protect our kids the way I am. I pray one day W would see it.