We are now going to be entering our fourth year with no direction either way. The truth is I will never be ready to give up. My marriage is worth saving.
your wife will file for divorce when she is ready... meaning: when she meets someone else who wants a full commitment from her... or when she is ready to branch out on her own... meaning: when the kids are on their own... if you want to save your marriage, you have to completely let it go... you have wasted four years in limbo... yes--wasted...
if it's not already too late, because gosh--it's been four years--you might be able to save your marriage if you are able to walk away from it... let it go... she has absolutely no respect for you... why should she? you have allowed limbo for four years! you cook, do family dinners, watch television together just like many intact families (no wonder she has not served you papers) except you are not really an intact family... you are a broken family pretending to be put together... if you must, go ahead and ask her if she is willing to reconcile... at this point, why not? and when she does not offer you a full commitment, DETACH and GAL to the hilt!
don't fall for anything less than a full commitment to reconcile... no vague answers... no answers that play on words to make it sound like she wants to work on the marriage... she is either in or OUT... get that respect back!
