Patience, DB, Detach... piecing or divorce

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W said - You seem detached lately or idk different and I just wasn't sure and was afraid to ask or find out somewhere else so I just asked instead of making assumptions... meaning she isn’t afraid I’m dating someone. What I don’t get is then why doesn’t she make make an effort to date me?

She also said that D3 wants to celebrate birthday with both of us. Which is probably becaue D3 has a great time w me. She never asks for her mom to join us when I have her.

We texted way too much today. She said our perspectives are way different. All by text so I’m not sure what she means exactly. Probably because I have a stable income and I’m basically like you can get on board or not but I’m going to be fine either way. I’m going to the beach and Hawaii and excited about a new job. I want to live life have fun and do my thing I know what we could have together. And I wouldn’t love her to come with me on the journey. But she is anxious scared has no job and basically a mess with a pretty sexy shell. She’s in great shape and is a great mom and is smart and has a great skill set in things I’m not as good at. We make a great team but she’s gotta jump on or not.

She wants coparenting either way together or not. I said I don’t want to hang out and do breakfast together unless you’re committed to working on our marriage. I’m not a gay friend. She wants time to get to know me again. I think that time shouldn’t be around D3 but should be just the two of us.

My mind works fast sometimes too fast which leads to inconsistency. But I’m feeling more detached than just a few days ago. I just have to make sure I have things to look forward to consistently.

I guess keep pulling away be less available and see if she takes the reigns and pursues me. That’s not her personality she’s more submissive and shy.

Thanks all for the advice.