It's been over a year since I posted. I am embarrassed to say my status has not changed. Still living in limbo. I am also ashamed that I have not initiated conversation. I thought last September the beginning o the end was finally upon us. She asked which divorce action to take. I told her I want the process that is easiest. I told her to start the process, if we can avoid lawyers that would be best, I have heard nothing since.
There will be no easy time to do this. I have been waiting for her to serve the papers. Txhubby is right and I know I should. There is a reaso she has not followed through. I think it is the kids. She does not want to be the (for lack of a better word) the villain in the eyes of our boys.
As far as me serving the papers, I am not there yet.
Here is an update . I sleep downstairs. Most nights I prepare dinner for all four of us. We eat as a family. After dinner my w and I tend to different chores. We will sit and watch tv, have non r discussions. Mostly she is on her iPad playing candy crush or reading Facebook.
I have decided to initiate the conversation. The conversation will not be negative. It will focus on fixing what is broken. Not negatively. We are part but still together. I figure if the discussion can focus on solutions and not problems it's a good start.
If after the discussion she has n interest in an attempt to reconcile, I will then serve her papers
Don't count the days, make the days count. Mohammad Ali
