ovrrnbw...it's more like I don't want to pursue, I know better..but is there in the spouse who left a middle ground of action that they expect/believe is ok and don't consider pursuit. see if THAT exists and THEY expect it and we detach/don't catch on to that...two ships pass quietly in the night. is there a distinction to them between "let's work on the R" vs "keep me aware of the person you are becoming without being needy/desperate"...my sitch is cast so to speak, I'm on the path for me and my life...it's more a ponderance than anything...all of us are just hoping we are doing the best we can for whatever hope/desire it is we have for our lives...as we presently know them.
again that might not be 100% clear, apologies I hope you get what I'm philosophizing about!
