Advice on my Scenario Pt. 21 - Garden in my Bucket

[OrangeK]

Firstly. Ovr. Thank you for posing questions and having a dialogue. I appreciate it tremendously.

Orange,

just take a breather man. Calm down. You don't have to fight ever fight, you don't have to "win" ever fight. I've spent a lot of time trying to do those things only to drive myself bonkers.

That is precisely what i was doing when i mentioned taking a break from the forum. then the pitchforks and torches came out.
Im not trying to "Win" or be right. Its just staggering to me how much of what i type out and submit gets completely ignored, and assumptions of my thoughts are made based off of incomplete information.

If you don't want her back, then why do you worry about her so much? Let her go and live your life. Do you think it's realistic that she will never have another man in her life? Or that you'll approve of those men?

I worry about what shes going to do to continue to violate my life, manipulate me through our son, and her declining ability to be an effective mother. I dont care who she has for men in her life (as im sure there will be dozens), nor that I need to approve of them. My approval isnt her concern and I dont care to provide it. As long as she isnt introducing a new guy to S3 every year or two, and they arent abusive to my son i dont care. Similarly as long as she continues her new silence i am a happy camper. I only ever wanted to know what she was up to so i could be ready for any incoming drama/manipulation attempts or legal attacks from her.

If you don't want her back, why spend so much time analyzing her every move? It's confusing.

See above

Your break from the forum post was an attention grabber, and meant more than just the face value. Think about yourself and why you act the way you do. You won't improve or learn about yourself without asking or thinking about these things.

I think about them often, i discuss them with IC often. My post about taking a break wasnt an attention Grabber.
I see other posters who abandon their threads and the other members seem to get concerned. I didnt want that to happen in an absence.

Your tone, in your thread and other people's, is not always the friendliest or most inviting.

That could be said of a lot of people here. I dont disagree. Being soft and fulffy has never been my personality.
When i am being actively antagonized and insulted, im not the type to sit there and be like "Yep, this is fine"

You say you're not going to waste time explaining your position to entitled know it alls, but then you go on to do just what you said you wouldn't. Do you realize you're doing this? Seems a bit contradictory.

People are here to help you.

I explained myself to those who had the time and patience to actually read 100% of what i am typing, not just skimming for Buzz words and going into Riot mode.
I think most people are indeed here to help. Most.
I think there are a select few who get their rocks off here with elitist feelings of superiority and omniscience.