LH appreciate your reply as you always tell it like it is.
guess I was thinking about her saying "we could have gone to dinner, on a date" that type deal but with no R talk. and I fully get the time/space, LBS making themselves the best/new version of themselves. course in the WW world or in Did's sitch, it's like his W is expecting/wanting to know the old Did but with some of the new stuff as well, not say a completely new person.
like I say my W left, her decision set our sitch in motion. I've done my best to navigate it as it's come along always with the desire to bring us back together. as you say though if she doesn't want it, makes no matter. for me it's that same thing she always said, she walked, didn't want to work on us, but yet then would say we have no R. a perfect cyclical trap for me. Accuray talked about that in one of my old threads, need to go read that again.
