so I have to say I triggered on something in Did's sitch:
"How could I commit to being your wife without even getting to know who you are today?"
while I'm where I am in my sitch THAT bothers the H out of me. I mean she made a choice to split us up, I tried a bit to see if she wanted to work on us, got shot down and have been leaving her alone as a result, BUT I still think a big feeling to her could be that exact statement above. it reeks of an LBS pursuing and requiring us to be counter to what folks recommend here, yet as time goes/hope diminishes man does that gnaw at you. did I make the right decision? not saying pursue her, talk R, the works, but between the two pursuit/detach is there some middle ground that might have provided a better result such that I as an LBS would not feel like she might be right/justified in hitting me with that comment?
I can hear my W saying that same thing as justification for D insinuating that by my "inaction" I was directly responsible for where my sitch is right now.
wondering if this makes sense to folks. that line just bugs me.
