Advice on my Scenario Pt. 21 - Garden in my Bucket

[OrangeK]

Im all set Steve.

Best of luck in life.

Ill update after D is final.

[OrangeK]

And yes. Ive been going to IC 2x a week. 3rd IC ive seen. No hint at any issues or even a suggestion of new Meds.

Ill die with a smile on my face and a good, solid, still frozen snowball in my hands, in the 9th circle of hell atop a flying pig when I see some of you admit being wrong about something, or that you may have overstepped, assumed or jumped to conclusions.

Manic? I feel better this week than i have since before BD.
Im doing great IRL.
Saving money, hitting fitness goals, S3 is much better behaved than even a few weeks ago, Divorce is going my way, and EX hasnt bothered me in over 2 weeks. Life is good.
Im doing fine and loving every second of it.
But again, thank you for assuming I am manic, Bi-Polar (despite what 3 IC's have told me, clearly you know better)

[Ginger1]

And yes. Ive been going to IC 2x a week. 3rd IC ive seen. No hint at any issues or even a suggestion of new Meds.

Ill die with a smile on my face and a good, solid, still frozen snowball in my hands, in the 9th circle of hell atop a flying pig when I see some of you admit being wrong about something, or that you may have overstepped, assumed or jumped to conclusions.

Manic? I feel better this week than i have since before BD.
Im doing great IRL.
Saving money, hitting fitness goals, S3 is much better behaved than even a few weeks ago, Divorce is going my way, and EX hasnt bothered me in over 2 weeks. Life is good.
Im doing fine and loving every second of it.
But again, thank you for assuming I am manic, Bi-Polar (despite what 3 IC's have told me, clearly you know better)

^^^^mania and inconsistency. You were just talking about how your wife is abusing your son, he has horrible tantrums when he comes back and now, life is good because your wife hasn't bothered you in over two weeks and your son is more well-behaved than ever......

I'll just pray for you over here.

Curious what happened when these 3 C's told you things you didn't want to hear.

My mother was bi polar. Always moved on to another psychiatrist when they didn't tell her what she wanted to hear......

I am not going to diagnose you. I am not pa psychiatrist. But this is how your behavior appears. All over the place and contradictory. It's worrisome.

[OrangeK]

Worry all you'd like Ginger. Light all the candles in the world.

I am equally concerned by how you seemingly refuse to analyze your own behavior patterns.

Im done being told I am mentally unstable by a bunch of keyboard psychologists.

Kindly go piss up a rope.

[DonH]

I don't think I've posted much if at all of your thread. However it is always so amazing to me when people here act poorly to those with years and years of experience who try to help them. Then they claim it's the spouse acting terrible, unreasonable and is responsible for the breakdown of the M. Yet who is the common demonination in the scenario? It's very telling.

You can either claim all of these people with years and years of expierence, following proven principles by experts are wrong or figure as a 30 year old know it all snowflake millenual they might not be the bad guy here. There's no way anyone gets their life back on track this way.

[OrangeK]

Clearly you read neither my entire thread, or my reasons for having issue with some of the things people have said here.

also, glad to see you are mature enough at your ripe age of 55 to resort to petty name calling. Typically what people do when they dont have an actual valid point.
Also, knowing nothing of my opinions or political affiliations, i find it delightfully charming that you chose to call me a "Millennial Snowflake"
Try shutting off Fox for once and actually pick up one of those dusty things with pages in it. I think they're called Books, if my feeble 30yo snowflake memory serves me correctly.

My life is well on its way to being back on track. Just without my EX, which is precisely how i want it.

Thank you for your generalized impression on a sitch you havent read.

[OrangeK]

Im done arguing with you all about how you view me.

Honestly, I dont give a S**t what people think about me or how I handle my life.

If you dont like it, dont read my thread, or throw your unwelcome $.02 in my face. I dont care.

As i have said twice already today. I will post in reply to legitimate questions asked, or an update after D is final.

I for one will be ignoring any further Ego fueled attacks because I pissed everyone off by saying i wanted a break from the forum.

Its starting to have a "One of us.......one of us...... We accept him" type of vibe.
People need to remember, despite this being a PRO MARRIAGE ANTI DIVORCE forum, I am happily getting divorced and never looking back, and that seems to irk people.

Anyone can imply i was the problem, you didnt live through the abuse i did, and I dont need anyone to validate that I went through abuse. Doesnt profit me at all if you do or dont. I know what i wnet through, i know what i was like in MR, i know what is right and wrong, and I know I am caring for myself and S3 the best way I SEE FIT.
If my methods or opinions get your ire up, go elsewhere. Simple as that.

[OrangeK]

If anyone is willing to have a productive conversation that doesnt include blind finger pointing, I am game.
If anyone wants to discuss my sitch, or theirs. I am game.

Steve, no hard feelings but i feel like we simply have very different views and we will never truly see eye to eye.
I will say i do appreciate your ability to have a disagreement and debate in a civil fashion.
I have always respected you as a man, and still do, despite some of the disagreements we have had.

[SteveLW]

OK. Absolutely. As I've always said. I just pray for your continued healing and growth. Just like I do for my own. Stay strong for that little man.

[ovrrnbw]

Orange,

just take a breather man. Calm down. You don't have to fight ever fight, you don't have to "win" ever fight. I've spent a lot of time trying to do those things only to drive myself bonkers.

If you don't want her back, then why do you worry about her so much? Let her go and live your life. Do you think it's realistic that she will never have another man in her life? Or that you'll approve of those men?

If you don't want her back, why spend so much time analyzing her every move? It's confusing.

Your break from the forum post was an attention grabber, and meant more than just the face value. Think about yourself and why you act the way you do. You won't improve or learn about yourself without asking or thinking about these things.

Your tone, in your thread and other people's, is not always the friendliest or most inviting.

You say you're not going to waste time explaining your position to entitled know it alls, but then you go on to do just what you said you wouldn't. Do you realize you're doing this? Seems a bit contradictory.

People are here to help you.