Advice on my Scenario Pt. 21 - Garden in my Bucket

[SteveLW]

OK be careful qualifying her pulling his hair to show him how it feels as "abuse". When kids cross certain lines then I believe corporal punishment is the answer. Parents that tolerate their kids hitting them, biting them, pulling their hair, etc are doing themselves, their child, and society a huge disservice. Sometimes a good old spanking is what is called for. And that our society claims that it is abuse is idiotic.

He pulled her hair, so she pulled his to show him that having your pulled is not fun.

Also, kids acting out when they are with one parent, or their grandparents, is a relatively normal thing. I know my D through the years has come home and acted pretty bad after being with grandparents. I think it is sometimes just rebellion since the rules are different at your house than they are at hers and vice-versa. Or it could be his way of dealing with his parents being split up.

If you think I am going to brush this under the rug, than I am sorry Steve. on this we will disagree.
A spanking is one thing. He was upset about this 2 days after the fact., She hurt him.
Shes a monster.
if you think that is acceptable parenting then I cannot support that view.

Again you can just ignore the advice. Or you can continue to be passive-aggressive. IDC either way.

Another fine example of "Im right, your wrong, if you dont listen to my advice and do what i say than you are obviously an idiot. Goodbye."
How supportive and understanding Steve.
Enjoy the view from high atop your self righteous soap box Bud.

if you think that is acceptable parenting then I cannot support that view.

"Im right, your wrong, if you dont listen to my advice and do what i say than you are obviously an idiot. Goodbye."

Or you could have said:

"Thanks for your perspective, I don't agree with it and feel that I need to document it and let my L know."

Your abrasiveness and being guilty of what you accuse others of is very indicative OK. As Ginger said, if you are even partially like this IRL it explains a lot.

Have you been to IC?

I have stuck with you through your tantrums. I don't care if you agree with me or not. I will continue to stick with you, unless you would prefer me not. I do feel it necessary to point out when you are responding poorly, to me or to others. You are back in a manic cycle (and I would have a new IC reevaluate you for bipolar, I know its been dismissed in the past by another IC that you didn't continue with), and when that happens you don't just disagree....you get disagreeable.

You need to follow your own advice.