My sibling is berating me for adopting a let her go mindset. Sibling says I should be telling my WAW and WAW family that I am ruining my kids and her step kids life and that she needs to work on the marriage, because WAW and WAW's family are too scared to give her a wake up call. I disagree with this approach and believe lovingly detach is the only way forward. Any advice from the board on how to keep your family away from trying to intervene or how to respond in this. In a way, sibling did not like my WAW from the beginning and now says I deserved this. Many thanks. I feel like I am being dumped on by my family.
b8, this is tough. Your sibling is well meaning. Has your sibling ever been through this? Do they have any experience with it? Have they read books and done other study into relationships, marriage, and divorce?
The problem is that our family and friends want what is best for us sometimes over knowledge, logic and reason. Your sibling is falling for the illusion of action. "You have to do something to fix it!" The problem is that, as most of the LBSs here can attest to, there is nothing you can DO to change your WAS's mind. That is the first real of DBing, understand that you can only control one person: YOU. Your sibling means well, but they are wrong. If it were as easy as they are suggesting this forum wouldn't even exist.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
