Hope, Faith & Wonder-ment

[Underdog]

Wonder, KAW and Sunseeker,

Great stuff here! You all made incredibly valid points.

I have to say I think KAW nailed it--the 2 options ARE mutually exclusive. Sort of like 2 doors on Let's Make a Deal... you can only open one at any given time.

I sense that you're not entirely ready to put option 2 out there. My golden rule of thumb was that it wasn't enough to consider it... I had to believe it, and I had to allow myself to feel that 100% of the time.

Nobody seems to be in a rush in your sitch, so why make it one? There is nothing wrong with hanging out in limbo if you feel better about yourself. I don't say that in a condescending vein, because I think limbo offers a lot--especially hope.

We are all unique. And although we may have been on the road together for a long time, we aren't all headed to the same destination. Some of us are destined for a side trip or two. Some of us find ourselves backtracking. Some of us find ourselves back at the beginning ( ) and others find ourselves arriving at destinations we had not planned on visiting.

I only offered my letter here to give you something to think about--not suggest you do it. I was ready. I really want to know what I'm doing, where I'm going and who's going with me. My girls' lives have been disrupted, and D10 is confused by the limbo. I might have to put her into C for a few sessions again before too long.

I recognize that we all have to do things in our own timeframe. My time has come. I sense that yours has not.

Whatever it is that you're contemplating, I hope you find peace during a very agitating process. I felt like I was in a plane experiencing turbulence before landing. I wasn't quite sure how it would play out. I'm still not sure what gate my plane will be parked, but I DO know it's going to land safely. I'm a great pilot and I have some terrific friends up in the tower... and so do you.

Peace, Wonder.

Betsey