Wonder ~
You have gotten some excellent advice here!

One of goals when I knew the D would go through, was to walk away with my head held high, knowing that I had tried all I could to save the M.

I am happy to say I have achieved that goal ~ but you know that from your visits to me! A friend told me today that I have handled everything (even my recent news..... ) like a "lady". That was a great compliment for me!

What will make you walk away (if you need to...) with your head held high knwoing you have tried your best?? Think about that then put your plan into motion!

Part of my plan was to write him a letter "setting him free" and he thanked me for it. He also reassured me that he will keep the letter and read it often. Would this work for your H??

Once you do some soul seaching, Wonder, you will know what is best for you and then we will all help you refine and execute your plan!!!

(((((Wonder)))))

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)